MEN TYPES THAT WILL KEEP WASTING YOUR TIME
As special and magical love is considered to be the holy grail of the soul and the elixir of happiness degrades the mind and body when experienced intermittently. Consequently, we must not subject ourselves to heartbreaks over and over again. Which is why I present you with 10 types of men that will keep wasting your time.
Just as kryptonite is to Superman, so also is a commitment to many men. Yet at some point, they have to get committed if they care about you. This type of guy has a phobia for commitment and is just fine with being friends with benefit. He withdraws quickly as soon as things start to get serious or when you start to push for more commitment. Unless that’s what you want from him at that moment, you’re bound to have your time wasted by him and probably end up as an insignificant addition to his body count.
He’s just not that into you
Between this and unrequited love, I don’t know which is more painful to the heart. But one thing I’m sure of is that being involved with a guy that’s not all that into you, will hurt you in so many ways. You’ll always seek for his approval, nag, give 100% and get peanuts in return. Ouch, right? Your self-esteem will plummet to the lowest and go through a roller coaster of emotions. You need to realize that you’re good enough for any man, he just doesn’t like you that much and that’s not your fault, so move on to save yourself from the emotional trauma.
Hot and cold
One moment he makes you feel like the queen of the universe, other times he ignores you like you don’t matter. One moment he is always the first to message you consistently, other times he doesn’t reply texts. One moment you’re having high hopes about your relationship; the next thing is that you find yourself doubting if you both have a future together. This guy blows hot and cold, and he’s very inconsistent. He will go AWOL on you and reappear as nothing happened. This not only wastes your time but also puts you in an ever-changing emotional state that is not healthy.
It’s one thing for him to cancel plans due to an emergency, but when it becomes frequent this is not the kind of guy you want to have a relationship with. He prioritizes other things than you, and he is not willing to compromise or make sacrifices to take you out. Such a man is selfish with giving attention and that’s not an enticing ingredient for a great match.
Men who don’t know what they want
It’s normal not to have everything figured out all the time. But at least one should have some sense of direction. This type of guy probably still lives with his parents at the age of 39 and is not passionate about his career or business. While there are successful men that don’t know what they want, one thing is common to them; when a man doesn’t know what he wants, you can be certain he’s not sure if you’re the one for him and you’re just probably his little laboratory mouse.
Keeps letting you down
You’ve forgiven this guy more times than the sun rises and yet he keeps letting you down and you keep forgiving. He cheats, lies, embarrasses you and keeps disappointing you. For some reason, whether love or lust, you put up with him. This kind of man will not change and will only continue to waste your time and drain you.
Still into his ex
While it’s fine to have a healthy relationship with your ex, it’s so not cool getting into a relationship and having interference arising from feelings for your ex. I know many of us are inclined to go back to our former love which is not a bad thing because you probably broke up for stupid reasons. Yet no one should get into new relationships without resolving his or her emotions with said ex. If the perfect man cannot give you his 100% you can be certain of not getting 50% from a man that’s still into his ex. Not only will he waste your time, but he’s also likely to get freaky under the sheets with his ex and may leave you for her
eventually. He’s probably a member of the X-men. Winks.
Mr Shut her up with commitment
Men know women want commitment and certain guys won’t be ready in the next decade and yet don’t want to lose you. So, he spoons feed you with commitment till you’re full. Chances are you’ve met his family and probably ancestors but years and years continue to pass and there’s no real progress in the relationship. You may even get a promise ring too. He might even be selfish enough to propose just to make sure you continue to be his. Eventually, that precious engagement ring becomes a key holder. Just be careful at night, as Gollum may come for it.
The social media buddy
Social Media has made many people unproductive. If every minute we spent on irrelevant conversations was used to do important work, a lot would have been achieved in the world. You get along, he’s funny, interesting and cool. But don’t go assuming you’ve built a strong relationship. Online conversations can’t be replaced with real ones, and he’s probably texting you from his girlfriend’s house. Worse, he might not be whom you think he is. Catfishing is rampant these days. So, if there’s no progress on moving beyond social media lovers, you’ll just keep wasting your time.
We all need to understand that not everyone can like you and it’s not your fault. It’s just their preference, and it’s just the same way you turn some guys down because they are not what you want. This is best explained by this quote:
“you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches”
–Dita Von Teese.
Learn to move on and not force anyone to love you. He’s the one unfortunate to miss out on a great lady. Time is truly precious and this can’t be overemphasized. That single man that is wasting your time is like a speck of dust on a beach when compared to the millions of good men out there. Move beyond men that don’t value you, and invest more in men that will make your time and effort to be worthwhile. Cheers!!